Disconnection, whether that’s a full-on Hollywood movie type of brawl or two partners who are treating each other like roommates, can be painful in a way that isn’t like other hurts.  It can feel like an emotional amputation.

Don’t be a jerk. However, some people are in a relationship where they’re so afraid of hurting their partner that they end up “stuffing their feelings.” Eventually, that dynamic of “stuffing feelings” can do two very damaging things: 1. Accumulate resentment ventually accumulate and “leak out” in the way you treat your partner. 2. Prevent your partner from having a chance to be in relationship with the “real you!”

Strangely enough, when two people fight and become “more logical” or “more emotional,” during the fight, it can be because they are responding to runaway underlying emotions.  People commonly refer to this state as being “triggered.”