It's New Year's Eve. The temptation is to make a list of everything you want to change—about yourself, your habits, your relationship.

Resist it.

Big lists lead to big failures. You start January with ten resolutions and by February they're all abandoned. The same thing happens in relationships. Couples decide they're going to communicate better, fight less, be more patient, have more sex, spend more quality time together—and then life takes over and nothing actually changes.

This year, try something different. Pick one intention. Just one.

Not a goal with metrics. Not a resolution you can pass or fail. An intention—a way of being you want to bring to your relationship.

Maybe it's: I want to listen more and fix less.

Or: I want to turn toward my partner when I'd normally turn away.

Or: I want to say the tender thing instead of the defensive thing.

Or: I want to assume good intentions, even when I'm hurt.

One intention you can return to when things get hard. One north star that guides how you show up.

Here's the thing about relationships: you don't transform them with grand gestures. You transform them with small, repeated moments of choosing connection. A single intention, held consistently, can reshape your entire dynamic over the course of a year.

So tonight, before the clock strikes midnight, ask yourself: What's the one thing I want to bring to my relationship this year?

Then tell your partner. Not as a promise you might break, but as an offering. "This is what I want to work on. This is how I want to show up for us."

You don't need a perfect plan. You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need one intention—and the willingness to keep coming back to it.

Happy New Year. I hope it's a good one for you and the person you love.